Ever wondered how to get out of the friend zone? We take a closer look at handy tips to break you out of the friend zone bubble.
Unless you happen to have been very lucky in love (ha, yeah right, as if there is such a thing) chances are you will have liked someone in the past who sadly didn’t feel the same way about you. In an ideal world, we’d find somebody we were attracted to, we’d fall in love with them, they’d fall in love with us, and we’d both live happily ever after. The end. Sadly, we don’t live in an ideal world.
Finding love may be tricky, but it’s certainly not impossible, though it can be made a whole lot trickier if you fall for somebody and they put you in ‘the friend zone. To some, the friend zone may sound like some make-believe fantasy land, yet the truth of the matter is that it is very real, and it can potentially be heartbreaking.
There’s nothing worse than falling for somebody, only to have them turn around and tell you that they ‘just want to be friends. If you do find yourself put in the friend zone, then fear not, because you can get out of it and have your happily ever after. Here’s a look at how.
Ask Them Directly
First and foremost, the most obvious way to potentially get yourself out of the friend zone is to ask them directly whether they’re into you or whether they could potentially see a future with you.
Far too often, people fail to communicate their feelings and expect other people to be mind readers, rather than just speaking direct and from the heart. Another reason why people don’t always ask directly and make their feelings known is that they’re scared that they won’t like the answer they get.
A very easy way to get out of the friend zone is to ask them directly whether they could see a romantic future with you.
Let Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Another handy tip for getting out of the friend zone is to give your potential partner what they want from a partner and to let actions speak louder than words.
If for example, they say that they want a partner they can rely on, show them how reliable you can be. Basically, don’t just talk about all the amazing things you can/will do for them, show them instead.
Listen To Their Problems
Again, this could be classed as letting actions speak louder than words, but as it’s so important we’re giving it its very own section here.
Another handy tip to get out of the dreaded friend zone is to listen to all of their problems and offer helpful and constructive advice whenever possible as well.
Basically, the idea here is that you’re showing them how awesome a partner you would be as you’d be willing to listen to their problems every day.
Respect Their Wishes
Ultimately, when it comes down to ‘friend zones’ etc, the most important tip of all is to always, always respect their wishes.
If you lay it all on the line and tell them how you feel and ask them if they feel the same way but they tell you they want to be friends, you need to respect their wishes. Don’t pester them, don’t pressure them, and don’t guilt them. Respect their wishes.
Ultimately, if you know that you couldn’t be friends with them without wanting more, you may need to cut ties, be honest, and end the friendship as it wouldn’t be fair on either of you.